My dad used to say this to me when I was getting nervous or worried and it used to drive me mad! In a strange way he was right!
This great blog on memory makes you realise how flexible the memory is and more importantly why it exists.
In evolutionary terms why is memory helpful? What value has when its only remembering things that have happened that have passed and are no longer relevant to us today?
It is true that the past makes you who you are today. Interestingly though memories aren’t always a correct reflection of the past. Any police officer will tell you that crime witnesses can give differing accounts of the same crime. So if memory is random, what’s the point of it?
This blog goes some way to explaining why recalling and forgetting memories is a means of learning. If we weren’t able to sift through what’s relevant from the paste we’d be paralysed with too much information and not be able to function.
In working with clients, the fact that memory is unstable is really helpful. It’s not what happened in a past memory that matters but what you make of it.
I was working with a client recently who had chronic performance nerves to the point were he was so paralysed by his fear that it was seriously affecting his career. He got incredibly anxious and so was avoiding any situation When we tracked the memory back, it started from an early experience in nursery school in the nativity play where he’d tripped up and everyone laughed at him in the audience. It seems daft that this could have such a domino effect and result in his problems in the present. Once we reconfigured this memory as an insignificant event in the past, the dominos fell and it released his fear.
So maybe sorting yourself out means reconfiguring and restoring memories differently in the memory bank to get on and do what needs to be done. Maybe my dad was wiser than I thought at the time!