All of us have a part of us inside our head that gives us a hard time sometimes. For a lot of the people I work with, it bullies them, criticises them, judges them and tells them how useless they are. This part of us can be a very powerful force and for some people it can lead to chronic anxiety or even depression. I’m working with someone at the moment who has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder whose thoughts are so negative and loud and overwhelming that he has already had one breakdown.
We all have this inner critic and for some people it can be very destructive. What’s its purpose?
This part of us served us well during our evolution. It enabled us to continue to strive to do better. If we were always contented we would probably be extinct now!
So how do we get the best out of this part to enable us to continue to improve and overcome its more extreme forms.
This is one of a few powerful yet simple techniques that you can use to take back control of your inner self talk.
Hold up your thumb and forefinger on one hand. Grab and turn your tongue one way. Notice the difference that makes to that inner babble. It usually either stops or quietens it.
Now walking round holding your tongue like this isn’t a good look! So imagine either the tip of your tongue is stuck to the roof of your mouth just behind the front teeth or is superglued down onto your palate. With a good visualisation this is very effective in the same way. Why does this work? Well when we talk to ourselves, the tongue makes micro muscle movements we are not aware of. Stop the tongue from moving and it quietens the talk.
If you want to transform your inner critic so it becomes useful, get in contact and we can discuss how I can help you.