Are you ready for change?
Some people say we are the way we are and that’s it- a leopard can’t change its spots! If you think about it, we are all constantly fine tuning who we are as we mature and change in our lives. I assume you don’t still believe in the tooth fairy or Santa Claus! If you do, then you need a different kind of help than I can offer!
Change isn’t always easy though, but it’s always possible and it requires you to put some effort in, even if you aren’t sure how to make the changes you want just yet.
This guide is to stimulate your thinking about what might need to happen so you can create and maintain the changes you want in your life.
Make some room for change
We spend a lot of our waking time in automatic pilot. Most of the time, this works very well for us. If you had to think every single thing through, in detail, you’d be paralysed into inaction. However, when we have negative habits or behaviours that need changing, they can become automatic as well. The human brain likes habits and patterns, even the bad ones, which is why you may have found yourself, despite really wanting to change, slipping back in to those old habits far too easily and then getting very frustrated with yourself!
I’m going to be teaching you how to make some space for yourself in your own life so you can get back in touch with that part of you that knows what’s best for you.
I’ll be showing you how you can retune into what’s helpful and become a lot more selective about what you pay attention to as you develop a more objective view of what’s happening rather than being swept away with a load of negative thoughts and feelings. I’ll be showing you how you can tame your inner critic and go easier on yourself. As you make more room for change to take place, you’ll start to experience more of that happiness and sense of fulfillment which only usually comes in those annual holidays!
Relax back into yourself
When we slow things down, as we will, you can begin to accept yourself again – warts and all- because none of us are perfect! You’ll be surprised about how much easier it can be than you think to make choices that work for you rather than being at a constant stretch, never quite good enough.
What’s getting in the way?
Sometimes we have unfinished business with ourselves or others that can inhibit change. We’ll be working to ensure your relationship with your past is what it needs to be so it can be helpful rather than get in the way. You can’t change what’s happened in the past, but you can change how it affects you in the present.
Managing Uncertainty
This is a challenge for all of us because life is unpredictable. It is particularly so when we are feeling bogged down as the brain sees safety in what’s familiar and sees danger in change and so triggers a strong emotional response – fear and anxiety. As we work together you’ll develop an approach to the future which is more helpful and optimistic because really, all you can control is you and your responses and that’s enough.
And finally.. making changes in your life requires your commitment to do different things. Even if you aren’t sure what or how to make changes, that’s OK. Change is usually about strengthening your relationship with yourself so I’ll be asking you to do things that rebuild your relationship with you. You might find this quite challenging and uncomfortable at first but I don’t have a magic wand, you do, and the more we work together the more you’ll realise that you’ve got everything you need to make the changes you want in your life. You just need to want to make the effort to shape the life you really want rather than continue living the half life you have now.
Change isn’t always easy, but it’s always possible. If you want to commit to yourself and your future, then let’s get started. I look forward to working with you.
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