What is Trauma?
Most people associate trauma with the big stuff in life, soldiers coming back from war with PTSD or people who’ve had horrible childhoods and have experienced a significant number of adverse childhood experiences. This is known as big ‘T’ trauma and yes, it can have a dramatic impact on an individual’s ability to function. Most people, myself included, have what is called little’ ‘t trauma, stuff that has happened too them or significant others at home, in the playground, from peers, that felt traumatic at the time and resulted in a core wounding at the heart of the sense of self. My father served in World War two and as a result was very emotionally unregulated. My mother had what we would call now post-natal depression. I was badly bullied as a youngster. These events themselves seem minor to my adult brain, but to the younger me, these events were life changing and massively impacted my perception of self and the path my life took. I held myself back for years!.
Trauma is not what happens to us, it’s what happens within us as a response to that.
How does it affect us?
Trauma creates a feeling of misalignment, disintegration at a mental, emotional, physical and even at a spiritual level where life lacks meaning and purpose. It can show up in the present in a 1001 ways such as addictions, OCD, difficulties in forming or maintain high quality relationships, perfection or pleasing patterns, anxiety and depression, the list is endless. All these responses are your unconscious mind desperately trying to soothe, cope, offset or hide the core wounding that started the line of dominoes that has resulted in the current unhealthy patterns that have brought you to my website.
How does trauma coaching work?
Drawing on years of experiences and hundreds of hours of practice, I use an eclectic approach incorporating mind and body techniques to enable you to unwrap the layers that have built up over the years to get back to he original event/s that underpinned the trauma pattern. It is only by getting to the the root cause. and recoding the memory in the mind and body that we can heal from the trauma in our lives. Traditional approaches to trauma tend to be talk based. This can be impactful, but is also a lot more laborious. Using AMDR, hypnotherapy, NLP, solution focussed coaching, positive psychology, cognitive behavioural techniques as well as body based sensory techniques, clients report changes happening quicker than you would think. Your mind and body have an innate ability and wisdom to reset themselves. My job is to tap into this and work in whatever way suits you, rather than a one size fits all approach.
What difference does it make?
Client’s report feeling whole again, feeling more themselves. They think more clearly, feel lighter, freer than they’ve ever felt, feeling that all the energy that was tied up in running away from themselves with negative habits and patterns has been released. As a result they can get on and live life more wholeheartedly, rather than the half life they were living before.
If this approach sounds like it might be useful for you, do get in touch for a free, initial consultation.
